When He or She Becomes An Addictive Drug…

Here are some of the most superficial reasons. One is the low level of experience. Most of the time, it is the first or the second experience of many people who face this situation. Also, even if someone has faced a similar problem and felt lonely, they may need more experience coping.

But there is another reason that many of us do not think is essential.

You might have many experiences with a similar situation, but addiction to the person may make you lose your conscience to make a proper decision. It might make the percentage of making a correct decision significantly less. This makes you lose control of your mind and the pattern of thinking.

Even though you have many experiences, or have faced similar situations in life, or have advised others on how to overcome problems like this, how old you may be, what social status you are in, or what occupation you do, all this may be irrelevant when you are deep down in a situation of a breakup. None of the above could be helpful to overcome the grief and sorrow of breaking up.

It is the nature of addiction. Everyone goes through a period that is difficult to bear up. We must understand the reality and change our thinking to overcome the grief of breaking up.

If we start the conversation at this point,

All human beings change, and we all are the same. Everything in this world is uncertain and bound to change at any point. But when it comes to a love relationship, we are too fast to conclude "being mine." Even though there are several arguments and fights, you still have that sense of belongingness inside you. You control the other person's feelings, love, and attraction. It will happen when you think about that person gradually daily, throughout days and weeks. You will have hope building up inside your mind about that person. Then without knowing, we get used to it, and the chemical reaction of living with what we like and are attracted to occurs inside our brain.

Knowledge, intelligence, and feelings are three different areas. A person might have good knowledge about everything but is addicted to drugs. Though he is knowledgeable, she might need to learn that he is being gradually depreciated. And he does not want to get rid of that habit. This is because when you try out something once and if you like it, the mind does not reject it automatically. But a human has the power to think, argue, and analyze to stop something terrible from continuing. But it needs to be handled correctly at the correct time with a good understanding. Relationships are a crucial factor at this point. Females get addicted to situations more often than males. But it is only for the relationships that are most affectionate to them. Though many females are like that, a few might not fall into that category.

So, love and affection act like an addictive drug that works similarly when you consume it without knowing the correct dose. Also, the person will behave in the same way as a drug addict would behave. Love and attraction are almost the same as drugs.

Addictiveness is the main reason you will not leave your loved one, even if that person has many negative aspects. Even though you stop the relationship, you tend to suffer mentally for this exact reason. You might look like a perfectly average person to the outside world, but internally you live in a different atmosphere, and it is because of the addiction you have towards that person. Some are ready to forgive their partner, even if he is the world's worst criminal. That is genuinely a feeling created by the brain that is addicted and attracted to that person. This leads you to destruction same as a drug does.

When you get attracted and addicted to a person's qualities and are restricted from experiencing them, you feel depressed. When you start feeling that you will no longer feel that person's affection, the brain turns upside down your whole thinking process and the usual routine or lifestyle. The key reason for this reaction is your addiction toward that person. Even though we call it love, we all try hard not to break the link or the supply of affection toward the partner. When you try to bring it out as the feelings, the brain, in the other way, tries to perform its best to keep you on track.

You will start seeing more attractive qualities of the partner

You start feeling jealous/ scared, thinking the partner will get close to another person.

Constant anger

You will feel that you are rejected and weak

Lethargy and laziness, and inability to concentrate.

Due to the above reasons, you will start getting flashbacks of memories from the past as the mind has started playing games to make that person yours again. Also, the mind tries to get you back on track that your body process has followed so far. It makes your grief multiplied by several times. The reason is what makes you feel lonely and helpless.

The breakup has several steps. And suicide is the last stage of it. If people could manage these moments, many lives would have been saved. When you are in a confused situation, almost blinded by the grief of breaking up, you unknowingly make your mind take control over the wrong decision. But these situations can be well managed. It can be done 100% successfully. You will now feel you cannot live without your partner for the rest of your life. But remember that this is just a misleading thought created by your mind. Even though the person you love is extra special, you can escape that situation.

As mentioned above, people change. So how can we expect their love and affection to be stable? You will never get something permanent from an impermanent or changing if both parties do to contribute equally toward success. This is not advice not to love, but to do it wisely and with a deeper understanding.

Suppose you have this understanding before you start a relationship and have your path of recovery. In that case, you can easily bear the sudden changes and breakups in the relationship. You should train your mind to face these challenges in a relationship. It will make you recover quickly, even after a serious breakup. Please educate everyone who is in the same situation as you. Make them eliminate unwanted stress and frustration, which will help save a life!